All week long I kept hearing people talk about “Single’s Awareness Day” rather than Valentine’s Day as if it were a curse to be single. Yesterday I learned that it is not bad to be single on Valentine’s Day. In fact it can be quite lovely.
After a long exhausting week, I knew that I wanted to make this weekend extra special. Being single and changing my lifestyle/landscape of friends has been an adventure, but a good one. When I was hanging out consistently with a group of my ladies we would often party on friday or saturday night, dance the night away, then sleep in on Saturday or Sunday. I don’t regret that time. I loved the energy and dancing. A lot of times I preferred dancing by myself rather than coupling up with a creepy guy who could not keep his hands to himself. Dance is an expression and there is Way more to express than just sex of course that plays its role, but we can’t forget about:
- CELEBRATION OF LIFE
At the same time, there is something magical about finding that dance partner who is actually “about it” and down to dance. I’m not gonna lie, sometimes I miss our girls’ nights and our impromptu fancy dance nights. We always had a great time and looked out for each other and I will miss that. The three of us have branched out and our exploring this Big, Bad Beautiful World. I will always remember the joy of those nights with no regrets!
This year has seemed like the start of a new chapter or even a new volume in my life. The changes have not been easy, but I believe they have been necessary for growth. I have been putting a lot of energy and focus into work and now I am trying to figure out ways to balance work, exercise, and life without burning out and still enjoying it all.
Being single has provided me with the opportunity to take better care of myself and figure out what is important to me and who and what I want in my life. Sometimes it’s lonely, but I would much rather be lonely and alone with myself rather than in a toxic, draining, relationship. Not all relationships are bad and I believe that every single one has it’s gifts regardless of how good or bad the relationship is. We have the opportunity to learn and grow from the time we spend with others.
Yesterday my friend and I did an Acro Yoga class together and it was a wonderful experience. It was my 2nd time and his 1st time. We were both nervous about it. It takes a lot of trust, communication, balance, and teamwork to execute the acro poses in such a way that they can set in and be held for more than a moment. The starting poses were a breeze, but when we first started flying it started out a little wobbly with all the nerves and teaching our bodies a new way to move, engage muscles, and breathe, while still staying connected. There was a pose that took even more effort and a couple of tries before we nailed it and experienced the joy of arriving together! At the end of class, we reattempted the bird and rather than the struggle we had grown accustomed to, we floated into the pose. We WERE FLYING!!!
Yesterday’s workshop felt like an exciting accomplishment. My partner was very strong, fit, patient, and an excellent communicator. He helped me figure out what adjustments to make. Sometimes it’s hard to know what to do when you’re suspended in the air upside down. Honestly, at times it’s a little scary, but the flying makes it all worth-it. Together we were able to hit and hold poses that I couldn’t even touch in my 1st workshop!
I learned that being single on Valentine’s Day isn’t bad at all especially when you have supportive, positive, uplifting friends and plan on doing fun things. I think this might have been one of the Best Valentine’s Days I’ve had even though I didn’t make extravagant, romantic plans!
In my life I have been told in different ways by different people that it is selfish to spend a lot of time on yourself. I am honestly learning that it is selfish not to. We need to take care of ourselves before we can take care of others. When you are happy, healthy, and confident in who you are then you have even more to offer others.
LOVE, LEARN, and CHALLENGE YOURSELF. It’s worth-it and MOST IMPORTANTLY YOU’RE WORTH-IT!!!
Love, Joy, and Blessings,