Hello My Dear Darling Friends!
November is here and that means I only have 2 monthly focus / intentions left. That was fast and I can hardly believe that these are the last 2 months of 2019. Let’s make them count!
This was a good week for me even though I had some nervousness and anxiety. I took a lot of time to reflect on this decade since 2010. Last Wednesday my friend Tsuneko reached out to me and said that she would be in my area this week and wanted to meet for coffee or lunch to catch up. I was thrilled to hear from her and excited about a visit, but also nervous. It was nice to retrace my memories from those early days and realize how much I have learned and how much I have grown since then.
2010 feels like nearly a lifetime ago. I am also happy that I have a friend from that time period who still wants to be my friend now. That sounds awfully dramatic, but I was going through a lot of struggles throughout that time in my life and with it came a fair amount of drama. I lost some friends when times got tough (especially some of my friends who are girls.) It is okay life goes on.
I made it a point to spend more time outside and have gone on some nice long walks on my road. We went to Kaleo’s Bar And Grill this week for lunch and drinks and it was really pleasant. I was happy to see that they had some nice outdoor seating.
This week was Halloween, but I did not make much of an effort to get in the Halloween spirit. We got lucky and found a fantastic deal on some free weights. The sellers wanted $500, but they took $325 and through in the weight rack for free. We went on an evening drive across the island and it was a nice impromptu adventure. Driving to Kona always feels like a spiritual experience for me. I get emotional because it is where my Grandma Alice grew up and I always get teary eyed when I see the beautiful patches of pink flowers (in Grandma’s favorite shade of pink) dressing up the lava. I also got to see my very first Kona sunset when we arrived and it was breathtaking. I did not get to take a picture of it because I was navigating, but that is okay.
I think that for now those weights are mainly for my partner, but I will work up to getting stronger. I am just so happy to have some especially since workout equipment can be scarce on this island.
Alleyjandra and I dancin’ it out:
I had fun on Halloween. It was my 2nd candy-free halloween. I made some yummy pasta and baked brie with cinnamon apples.
I was a nervous wreck by Thursday because Tsuneko and I made plans to meet on Friday. Initially my plan was for us to meet somewhere for coffee or brunch, but Christopher suggested that we invite her to our home. It wasn’t that I didn’t want her to come over, but I was nervous that it would subject me to judgement and I felt so unprepared to entertain. I mean, I was running out of hand soap in our bathroom and kitchen and I didn’t have nearly enough refreshments. Christopher told me not to worry and assured me that we would be just fine since our place was clean and we had some good Kona coffee and tea to share. And like usual, he was right.
I had such a lovely visit with Tsuneko. We drank coffee and talked for hours then I gave her a grand tour of our property. I hope that she will come visit again soon. I might even feel re-inspired to take a local Aikido class, but I won’t pressure myself too hard because that would involve driving, parking, and being around other people… Baby steps, right?
I am really proud of the fact that I pushed myself to socialize this week. Twice. I just need to keep doing it more and more.
One thing that I did not like is that when I compared the way I looked at the age of 22 to the way that I look now at 31 I was almost envious of my younger self. I liked the way my eyes sparkled and my skin glowed. I was also not as overweight. I would slap myself in the face if I could because back then I was so critical of myself. I just want to reach a place where I can love and accept myself the way that I am right here and now. I would also like to stop worrying so much about aging.
I spent a fair amount of time gardening and we built a chicken run because I think we are going to get some chickens soon. This is another dream that I have had for a long time so I am looking forward to it.
Last night we were finally able to have our neighbors over for drinks. It was fun to catch up and socialize. We talked about maybe making it a Sunday night thing because our visits have always ended up being on a Sunday.
Here are my blog posts from this week. Check them out:
- Workout and Word of the Day #100 Fitness Blender Challenge Day #3
- Workout and Word of the Day #101
- Fitness Blender Challenge Day 5/5! Workout #102
- Pressure’s On To Try Not to Stress “Storytime”
- 11-1 A Wonderful Day
- Workout and Word of the Day #103
- Workout and Word of the Day #104
I am satisfied with my blog posting activity this week. I love that I have had time to write actual posts rather than re-blogging posts from past years. There have been times in the past where that was all that I had time to do.
Another new thing that is happening is I have decided to do an 8 week Fitness Blender Workout program. This seemed like it would be a good fit for me and my current lifestyle. I like the fact that I can workout from home without feeling the pressure and anxiety of going to a gym or group class. Maybe some time in the near future I will do that, but I want to keep challenging myself and working towards my goals in the meantime.
“When we treat people merely as they are, they will remain as they are. When we treat them as if they were what they should be, they will become what they should be.”
-Thomas S. Morison
- Use good manners.
- Give positive reviews.
- Offer a helping hand.
- Honor and respect yourself.
- Honor and respect others.
For this month of November I am focusing on respect. Respecting my self and others. I was raised to be very polite, but I think there is a difference between being polite and showing respect. Sometimes respecting ourselves may not look politeness, but it is much better for the heart and soul.
What are you focusing on throughout this month of November. Please comment below to share! I hope you will have a wonderful week!